You know those people who have always known exactly what they want from life? They knew from the beginning what they wanted to be when they grew up, where they wanted to live, what hobbies they enjoy, etc? I couldn’t have been further from that. I always envied those people SO much!
I had big dreams of “success” but never quite knew what path would get me there or what that would even look like for me.
Somehow, this trend made me feel like something was WRONG with me because my interests varied and changed so frequently.
There’s so much pressure to have your life figured out from such a young age. I wanted so badly to follow a “traditional” path — to feel successful, have a steady income, a long term relationship, a healthy lifestyle, a reliable plan for the future, the clear cut career path, etc. etc.
I found myself in therapy because I was terrified of adulthood and what life would look like post college.
From the time we’re 5 until age 21 (for most of us) we’re told what comes next. Elementary school, middle school, high school, then college.. But what happens after that? And more importantly for me, what happens when I had graduated from college and still had no idea what the heck I wanted to do? That transition was HARD and absolutely terrifying for me.
All of a sudden my type A tendencies were my biggest downfall because there was no “right” next step. No clear plan to guaranteed success and that felt overwhelming and daunting.
All of a sudden my friends were moving to all different places — some for jobs, some moved home, some went on to grad school. I had to take on lots of new responsibilities like paying rent, starting to support myself and finding the path that felt right for me. Life suddenly looked very different and completely unknown.
Throughout the first few years post college, I learned so much about myself, who I want to be in this world and the life I want to lead.
- I found solace and peace in trying things and allowing myself to fail. I’d learned to go all in, sometimes fail, but then pick myself back up again.
- I trusted my gut and followed a path that felt really aligned with who I am as a person.
- Most importantly, I let myself take things one day at a time.
I moved from one state to the next to the next. Got married, finished grad school, started new jobs and then eventually started my own business.
THE MEANING BEHIND THOSE MAGICAL LETTERS — Chelsea Connors, MS, LPC-A, NCC, BCC
I received my Master’s Degree in Counseling from Johns Hopkins University and am registered as a National Certified Counselor (NCC). I am a Licensed Professional Counselor-A in the state of South Carolina. I also completed my Board Certified Coach (BCC) credential through the Institute for Life Coach Training.
Available for speaking engagments!
Transitioning to Adulthood, Emotional Intelligence and Resilience, Practicing Confidence and Self Efficacy, Developing Self Awareness, Realistic Ways to Prioritize Mental and Emotional Well-being as a Busy Millennial, Tapping into creativity to support growth and well-being, Managing Perfectionism and Exploring Failure.
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