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Letting Go of Anger & Resentment

In Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

Ohhh, anger. Why oh why do we have such a complex relationship with anger?! Here’s the thing – when I think about anger, I immediately think of pain. Let me tell you why. I truly believe that most of our anger can be rooted back to hurt in one way or another, whether it’s crossed boundaries that built to resentment, feeling taken advantage of, repeated disappointment or betrayal. Whatever it may be, our anger is usually a good sign that we’ve been hurt.  Resentment comes when we try to push away how we really feel. Do that long enough, and you’ll begin to resent the people around you fast as lightning.  Anger can also manifest as a defense mechanism for some people when they’re feeling vulnerable, threatened or insecure in some way. Add in a lack of communication to the mix and we have ourselves a whole bunch of frustrated, …

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4 Questions to Help You Find New Perspectives

In Career, Happiness, Life Coach, Mental Health by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

We spend a lot of time in our own heads, listening to our own stories and viewing the world a specific way. It’s easy to get lost and stuck there – but also super natural, unless we’re intentional about stepping outside of our own little brains. A lot of us resist the opportunity to see things from a perspective other than our own. It’s easy to forget that there is so much life to be lived. There’s so much going on around us that it’s easy to forget about the many, many ways to view or interpret the same thing!  Gaining perspective outside of your first instinct can be so helpful when you’re really going through something or feeling stuck. Let me show you how to find a new way of looking at the same old shizzzz. Whether you’re facing something deeply painful or you’re looking to change things up in your life, cultivating …

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6 Ways to Squash that Relentless Self Doubt

In Abundance, Happiness, Life Coach, Mental Health by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

Feel like you’re somewhat on the right track? Maybe you’ve got a lot going for you – some solid friends, a decent job, family who cares about you, a working mostly healthy body… Lots of the things that we’re told are supposed to make us happy… but that self doubt is just RELENTLESS. Shouldn’t life feel fuller, easier, more fun by now? Shouldn’t that voice in the back of your head telling you all of the reasons that you suck or why you can’t change/go after what you want/take a risk be quiet by now?! It can feel exhausting, confusing and frustrating to be doubting yourself and your worth day after day. It’s hard to quiet that silly voice that seems to be keeping you at a stand still and in constant questioning of yourself.  If you want to squash the relentless self doubt from sabotaging you from living your …

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Sleep Hacks for the Insomniac in You

In Friends, Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Relationships, wellness by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

So many of my clients describe feeling tired and depleted ALL THE TIME. When I ask them about their relationship with sleep or how their sleep hygiene is, I’m often met with a blank stare. Changing your relationship with/habits around sleep is one of THE most beneficial things you can do for your young adult self – in all aspect. Career, relationships, health, you name it!!  Listen, I get it…I’ve struggled with sleep since the time I came out of the womb. Seriously, ask my mom. It was not fun for her (or me).  A normal night used to look like crawling into bed at whatever time (it really didn’t matter what time it was), and laying there, staring at the ceiling, rolling from side to side for anywhere from 2 to 6 hours. It made for a lot of sleepless nights. It lead to sleep anxiety – I would …

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My Loving Lately Summer Edition – Well-being Support

In Abundance, Career, Friends, Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth, Positivity, wellness by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

It’s about time for a good ol’ loving lately post. If you’ve been following along over on IG (if you’re not, HI, come hang out!), you probably know that we’re about to move from Charleston to Virginia Beach.  Moving, traveling, weddings, visitors – lots happening this summer. Can anyone relate? This summer is shaping up to be pretty dang full and busy! Whenever life ramps up in speed, I always try to hanker down on the ways that I can support myself. I know what it feels like to lose ALL of my routines, habits and wellness practices that keep me feeling grounded and coming back to myself, and let me just say – you don’t want to hang out with that version of Chelsea.  It’s so important to me to support myself from as many angles as possible ESPECIALLY during busier and more chaotic seasons of life. The key …

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10 Tips on Letting Go

In Friends, Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health by Chelsea Connors2 Comments

First things first: There is no one size fits all approach to this process. In this post, I hope to open your mind to some thoughts, perspectives and ideas but being that I have no clue what you’re going through, take what works for you, and as always – leave the rest! (How ironic to the topic of this post!!) I often work with clients who tell me that letting go is a STRUGGLE. They can’t seem to shake things like… an idea of what their life “should” look like by now guilt around a relationship that isn’t working an old habit/pattern that’s keeping them stuck feeing bad about setting a clear boundary with someone they lo0o0ove an emotion/feeling about themselves or someone else that they just can’t kick a belief around who they are/are not that is no longer serving expectations (either from other peeps like family/friends/co-workers, or themselves) …

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7 Tips for Starting Conversations as a Self Conscious Millennial

In Career, Friends, Happiness, Life Coach, Personal Growth, Relationships by Chelsea Connors3 Comments

Oh the art of conversation starting. Let’s talk about it! It’s pretty common to feel unsettled about your friendships by your mid twenties. People start changing, growing, and moving more and more towards who they’re going to be as adults.  This means that friends you thought you’d have for life could begin to feel kind of like strangers. It’s really normal to start feeling like all of a sudden you don’t enjoy the same old shit you used to. We may be placed in new environments and situations that make you feel unsure. Most of the time this goes one of two ways: We keep hanging out with the same old people that don’t really make us feel full, happy or complete because it’s easy and convenient. We swirl in a pool of doubt and loneliness feeling like we don’t even know how to talk to new people anymore and therefor …

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My Anti Suck It Up Approach to Life

In Abundance, Career, Friends, Happiness, Life Coach, Personal Growth, Positivity by Chelsea Connors5 Comments

You’ll probably never hear me tell you to “suck it up” when it comes to your life – not your job, relationship, your body, your stress levels, your social life, etc. Nada!  Sure, there are times when we have to do things we’re not thrilled about doing but I think the idea of sucking up a lifetime of misery is simply unacceptable and an unhelpful approach to living life wholeheartedly.  So many of us are raised to believe that we should to go to school, get a job, find a partner, have a family and “make it work” and that that is the right way to do life and if you find you’re unhappy, sorry bout it! Tough shit.  In other words, if you don’t like the path you’ve chosen, suck. it. up. It’s too late. I just can’t get on board with this blasphemous, unhealthy and unhelpful approach to …

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How to Turn FOMO into JOMO

In Friends, Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Positivity by Chelsea Connors0 Comments

Ready to kick FOMO to the curb for good so you can start actually enjoying your free time? Start here! FOMO – lovingly defined as the fear of missing out. That sneaky, sneaky feeling so many of us get at the thought of claiming a night in, saying no to brunch or opting out of a weekend trip. That ache in your gut that has you feeling like sad sally on the outskirts watching life go by.  “But what if I miss something important? What if they have fun without me?! Doesn’t being alone or staying in make me a loser?”  Oh. the. worry.  FOMO can really lead us to a spiral of self doubt and anxiety. FOMO impacts so many clients that I work with, and so profoundly, that they find themselves living lives they don’t enjoy, surrounded by people they don’t actually value… OR they feel absolutely drained …

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Tools & Apps I’m Loving Lately!

In Career, Happiness, Health, Life Coach, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth, Therapy, wellness by Chelsea Connors1 Comment

I had a doctor’s appointment yesterday where my doctor needed to use some fancy technology to take a look down my throat at the cysts on my vocal cords (If you’re new here, that’s a thing I’m going through at the moment). The computer system had a glitch and while we waited for the entire system to reboot we chatted about how amazing technology is — when it works LOLZ.  I know we’ve all had the experience when technology DOESN’T work and how frustrating that can be.  But more times than not, technology shows up for us and there are SO many ways we can use it as support in our lives.  I use lots of tools to help me feel good, and support me on my mission to live life to my fullest ability.  I wanted to share some of these resources with you so you can benefit and live your …